The most common question newlyweds get asked..

It makes me cringe. I am sure if you are married you know the question, “when are you going to have little Anderson’s?”

First off, let me start by saying that is a ballsy question to ask a woman, what if she can’t have kids? I just don’t feel like such a simple question should be asked to someone who you may not know that well.

Anyway, maybe this question wouldn’t bother me so much if I didn’t get asked the question “why not” when my response is “I don’t know if I want kids”. Oh the speeches I’ve heard, the faces I’ve received. My favorite is “don’t wait too long you don’t want to be an old mom, there’s complications” (barf)

The reason this is my first blog is because well, I am sitting on my patio on a Saturday evening, watching my four dogs run and play in the yard, after enjoying a relaxing baby-less day with my husband and dogs. I don’t feel anything is missing in my life, right now that is, this could very much change in a few months or years.

I do have to say that I am truly blessed for good friends and family who understand where my husband and I stand, and every once in a while a mom will ask me the question and support me. Oh I love when that happens!

So why don’t I want kids and why is this okay, keep reading…

The world is a scary place and I honestly don’t know if I want to bring a child into such a scary world.

My husband and I enjoy our simple life, plus it’s hard enough going on vacation or even a weekend get away, when you have four dogs.

Not all my dogs are kid friendly and I refuse to be the pet owner who surrenders her dogs. That will never happen.

I guess you could say we’re selfish and that’s okay too. We enjoy relaxing, sleeping and doing what we want, yup selfish!

I am a working woman– I work hard and I don’t want to give that up at 28. I can’t imagine being a stay at home mom right now. (That’s what I would want if I did have kids)

I don’t feel that everyone needs to go and have kids as soon as they’re married. I have a ton of friends who are moms and God do I love those kids! I love them so much I watched them grow into the cutest little toddlers from birth. I love being called “auntie” and being able to tell their mommy’s to go have a date night with their hubs while I watch their kiddos. I love buying them gifts and giving them treats when mom and dad say no. In fact, I am watching my best friends toddler for a week and I am really excited about it! Love that little girl! I hope nobody takes this as I don’t like children because I do, I just don’t want them– right now.

I think it’s important for women to know that it’s okay to not want children. That is all 🙂